3 Tips to Find Your Cheerleaders

In most of your endeavors in life you want to find a solid accountability partner. This is the person who pushes you and gives you hard truths you need to hear most, even when you don’t want to. That’s how people reach their goals. When you’re in this vulnerable place of rediscovery, I don’t want you to find an accountability partner. I want you to find your cheerleaders.

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You’ve probably had cheerleaders in your life that phased in and out. These are the friends you had that you could do no wrong with. They called you their best friend even when they weren’t really yours. These relationships never last.

Why? They don’t last because there isn’t a real connection. The entire relationship is lopsided and in your heart of hearts, you can’t trust them. How can you trust someone that always agrees with you, loves what you love (to a scary and false degree), and never thinks you make mistakes? You can’t.

However, when you’re in this raw state of rediscovering yourself after marriage and motherhood, you need to find your cheerleaders who will encourage and support you. That’s not to say you need to go out and find some fake friends to use. That’s not good. Instead, use these tips to find your cheerleaders all around you when you need them most.

 

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Reach Out to Friends

Your existing friends already love you, otherwise, why would you be friends? Start to find your cheerleaders by reaching out to them. Tell them about your journey and invite them to do it with you. Then make a pact with each other to provide loving support throughout this journey. When you journal consistently for 3 days, let them know and give a big “Hooray” and high five each other. When she steps outside of her comfort zone to try a new activity, enthuse about how awesome that is!

This isn’t about falsehood, it’s about camaraderie. It’s about showing enthusiasm for the difficult steps you’re taking to rediscover yourself.

 

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Find New Cheerleaders

As you go on this journey, you may find that some of your friends aren’t as close anymore. I’ll talk about this more in another post but for now understand that this is normal. You are finding who you are in the present and that may be drastically different from who you were.

That’s why it’s important to find new cheerleaders, too. Start by participating in the Instagram challenge to find other women going through the same process you are. Find chicks that vibe with your weird and even start a Facebook group or Instagram group chat to regularly connect with each other.

You don’t have to be face-to-face to have deep and lasting relationships. Oftentimes, in this busy season of life, you don’t even get to see your friends as much as you once did. That’s the beauty of the internet. You can connect with awesome people regularly who get you and bond with you without packing up your kids and leaving the house. That’s awesome!

 

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Be Your Own Cheerleader

I still recommend find 1 or 2 awesome women to help support and cheer you on, but you should totally be your own cheerleader too. Of course, when you’re in those tough moments when you want to fall back on old patterns it’s hard. When you’re going through your clothes and find negative self-talk filtering in your head, it’s hard to be your own cheerleader.

Luckily, I have a trick to help you out in these moments and it’s probably sitting next to you as you read this. It’s your phone. Use the voice recorder on your phone to record you saying positive things to yourself. Here are few ideas in case you need help:

When you’re feeling vulnerable, whip out your phone and play these back to yourself. There’s something powerful about hearing your own voice compliment you.

 

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Use these 3 tips to find your cheerleaders during your rediscovery after marriage and motherhood. They are an important resource to have in your corner. Don’t forget to jump on the Instagram challenge if you haven’t already. It is a great way to find community in this process and it will help you keep showing up and doing the work when it gets tough. I also highly recommend starting small private Facebook groups or a group message on Instagram to connect with each other. Share ideas and thoughts with each other throughout this journey so that you can all come out the other side living your best life ever!

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How to Rediscover Yourself After Marriage and Motherhood Series

  1. Introduction
  2. Why All Moms Need a Journal
  3. Determine Your Why for Self Discovery
  4. Find Your Cheerleaders
  5. DIY Positive Affirmation Cards
  6. Create Your SAHM Hierarchy of Needs
  7. The Hard Truth About Carving Out Me Time
  8. 5 Awesome Podcasts to Inspire Self Discovery
  9. How to Love Yourself First
  10. Stop Reacting to Life and Live Proactive
  11. How to Set and Protect Boundaries as a Mom
  12. How Moms Can Stop Being People Pleasers
  13. Why It’s Okay to Outgrow Relationships
  14. It’s Time to Break-up with Yourself
  15. Create a Mini Mom Oasis for Recharging
  16. Why Moms Should Date Themselves + How to Do It
  17. How to Get Your Free Time Back as a SAHM
  18. Turn Someday into Today
  19. Why You Should Throw Out Your Clothes
  20. Rediscover Your Old Hobbies
  21. How to Find New Hobbies You Love
  22. How to Create a Daily Self Care Routine
  23. Shut Down Your Negative Self Talk
  24. How a Haircut Can Help You Find Yourself
  25. Make a Bucket List You’ll Actually Complete
  26. Unique Alternative Ideas to Help You Find Yourself
  27. Why SAHM Need to Unplug Weekly
  28. 10 Mom Date Ideas You Can Do at Home
  29. 10 Mom Date Ideas to Get Out of the House
  30. Embracing Your Weird as a Mom
  31. How to Practice Mindful Reflection 

10 Awesome Horror Movies to Watch on Netflix

Movie nights with Netflix are great for families on a budget. They require zero prep and, even better, zero extra money (assuming you have an account). This month, get in the Halloween spirit with these 10 awesome horror movies to watch on Netflix.

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I absolutely love horror films. Like, can’t get enough of them kind of love them. The awesome thing about this time of year is that everyone is in the mood for horror movies too.

Luckily, I’m always ready with a recommendation. Even better, I’ve seen almost every horror film on Netflix. (Thank goodness they’re adding more so I have a fresh new supply for the holiday.)

If you’re looking for an awesome horror movie to watch on Netflix you don’t have to wade through the bad ones. I’ll give you the goods on the best ones so you can simply watch and enjoy.

 

The Diabolical

This movie follows a tough as nails mom trying to raise her 2 kids on her own. It certainly doesn’t make matters any easier that they’re being haunted by something they can’t explain.

 

Death Note

If you haven’t watched Death Note you are missing out! This movie is action-packed and clever as it follows a teenage boy who gets his hands on a book that can kill people… and meets the demon who comes with it.

Before I Wake

This one is both scary and heartfelt. After the loss of their son, 2 parents take in a foster child with a strange ability. Even better, this one is PG-13 so it’s one you can watch with older children.

The Boy

I originally rented this one after it came out despite poor reviews and I’m so glad I did. In it, a nanny is hired to watch a child only to find out that it is a doll the parents pretend is their son. The twists and turns will make you wonder if the parents are crazy or the nanny is.

 

The House at the End Of Time

This is a Spanish movie with subtitles, which I know some people don’t like, but it is brilliant. A dying woman gets to spend her last days on house arrest in her family home instead of prison. Of course, in this case prison might be safer. It is a must-watch for a scary good movie night.

 

Extinction

Yet another brilliant Netflix original, this movie follow a man who is plagued by nightmares of an alien invasion. Unfortunately, soon he must face those fears head on with his wife and two daughters. If your kids can handle violence, this one is family friendly too, in my opinion. (Of course, always vet movies yourself to make sure they meet your family-friendly standards.)

 

The Signal

This movie was surprisingly good. The description tells you that it is about college friends on a road trip who run into major trouble in the dessert. What it doesn’t tell you is that they are overly-proud hackers chasing someone who out-hacked them. It definitely gets high marks on the creep factor scale. It is also PG-13 if you’re looking for a horror film for the family.

OtherLife

The ultimate example of when technology goes wrong, this movie follows a young woman fighting with her partner about how to use the new drug they invented… a drug that induces a time-compressed virtual reality. It combines trippy with terrifying ego in one place.

 

Rebirth

This one is definitely not a family-friendly movie but it is the perfect film for after the kids go to bed. A guy gets his friend to go to a rebirth retreat that is full of activities from the sickest minds. It is so crazy you can’t help but keep watching.

 

Would You Rather

If you’re looking for a gory, cringe-worthy horror film then this is definitely the one for you. A girl in desperate need of money agrees to take part in a game only she doesn’t realize exactly what she has agreed to until it’s too late.

 

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It is time to get in the Halloween spirit. These 10 awesome horror movies to watch on Netflix are the perfect pick for your next movie night or to binge on with friends over a long weekend. Now I’d love to hear what your favorite horror film is! I’m always down for more recommendations!

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5 Games for a Fun and Frugal Night with Friends

Don’t go through the work of entertaining only to have your game night be a dud. Be a game night rock star with these 5 games for a fun and frugal night with friends.

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Growing up I always looked forward to game night. We had absolutely no money but that didn’t stop us from having fun.

It was always a big deal when our friends came over for a game night. It meant lots of laughter and it meant we got to stay up later than usual.

Sometimes our friends would bring a new game for us to play which led to even more hilarity figuring out how to play it. These are the fond memories I want to share with my friends and kids now.

When you’re trying to get out of debt, game nights are awesome. They are an inexpensive way to get together with friends and create memories that make you laugh for years to come.

Unfortunately, not all games are equal when it comes to interaction and fun. A Monopoly night is great for family game night but not so much when you have a large group of friends over. These game ides are perfect for a fun game night with all your friends!

 

Smart Ass

This is a hysterical game that is perfect for the hyper-competitive friends in your group (which is totally me, btw). Each card has a Who, What, or Where question along with 8 clues that narrow down the answer.

As the clues are read, everyone gets a turn to guess. The best part is that this game is fun for the card reader too. Some cards you will know which clue is going to give it away and it can be fun to tease a little over it.

 

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What Do You Meme

This is like a fun new twist on Apples to Apples. A meme is placed on the table and each player chooses a card from his or her hand that best represents that meme. If the judge for that round chooses your card as their favorite, you win that meme.

This is a great game for that friend that is constantly filling your Facebook feed with memes!

 

Taboo

If you haven’t played Taboo yet, you are missing out. This is a great game for couples or for large groups since there is essentially no limit. What makes this game so hysterical is the creative ways you get your teammates to guess the word. The better you know your team, the better you will do.

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Balderdash

This is an oldie but a goody. It is the game of ultimate trickery and b.s. for everyone.

The reader draws a card with a word, person, date, or more on it. Each player then writes down their own made up definition or significance of the card while the reader writes down the truth (listed on the card).

When the reader reads the answers aloud, players vote on which one they think is real. You can see how this quickly and easily leads to laughter and fun.

 

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Watch Ya’ Mouth

This game is straight up bananas! Each player takes turns inserting his or her mouth guard (don’t worry, each player gets their own) and reading a card. Players try to guess what is being said.

The first one who does, wins that card. It sounds simple but it is incredibly difficult. No matter how hard you try to enunciate you will fail.

This is one of those games that I never would have tried if friends hadn’t gotten it but I’m so glad they did. It is a blast!

 

Bonus Game Idea: Cranium

This is one of my favorite games (after Scattergories, of course). It’s crafting, charades, Pictionary, and more all rolled into one.

Sculpt the word on your team’s card in clay or act out a famous song. There is no end to the hilarity with this fun game.

It is another one that is perfect for large groups of friends to play.

 

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These 5 games for a fun and frugal night with friends are the perfect way to get some group hang time without derailing your budget goals. You may not be able to afford nights or dinners out while you’re paying off debt but that doesn’t mean you can’t still rock a game night.

Come back later this month to find out how to save money with a pitch-in party. It is just what the doctor ordered when it comes to entertaining on a budget!

Now I want to know what your favorite board games are. We’re always on the hunt for awesome new ideas to try out. Let me know in the comments!

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