I’ve always loved the quote from Coco Chanel, “A woman who cuts her hair is about to change her life.” These words are absolute truth. We’re not talking about heading to the salon for a trim. We are talking about going bold and how a haircut can help you find yourself.
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I have always experimented with my hair. I’ve gone crazy short and grown it super long (multiple times). It has been almost every color you can think of and a million different styles.
I think this is the product of growing up in an abusive home. When your entire life feels out of control, you grasp at anything you can control. For me, that was my hair and that trait has stuck with me into adulthood.
That’s why I think that changing your look can be a game changer in your life. Before we get to why, let’s talk about ways to change from drastic to color.
When you feel like you have completely lost yourself, your life feels out of control. One of the quickest and easiest ways to take back that control is to change your look, especially your hair. In situations where you are feeling desperate, go drastic.
Even if you regret the decision later, it’s an impermanent form of change (unlike a tattoo or, more drastic, plastic surgery… eek!). When we feel lost, out of control, or in desperate need of a change we are thinking with our emotions instead of our head. I never recommend doing something permanent to your body when you are in this state of mind.
If you have always had long hair, cut it off. Or, if you keep your hair short then consider extensions. You can even completely change your look and switch up your hair color, too.
Less Drastic Change
The thought of chopping off all of your hair is scary, especially if you’ve sported that style for years. Sometimes you aren’t ready to take such a leap (although I totally recommend it). If that is the case, you can dip your toes in with some less drastic changes such as:
- Bangs are a great way to change your look without going into shock. Of course, if you’re a mom who has been going through the motions for years, you could probably use a good shock to shake things up. In addition to the less drastic change, if you decide you hate the bangs you can always style them so that they’re hidden.
Change the Style
- Another option for a less drastic change is to change the style without changing the length. This can be done with a cut (such as adding layers to your long hair) or even with a hairstyle that doesn’t involve a cut at all. For example, you can even style your hair in a way that gives you “faux bangs” like the video above or a try a braided Mohawk for an edgy look.
While I feel like part of rediscovery is being brave enough to try new things, sometimes even the less drastic ideas are too far outside of your comfort zone. In that case, try a color change.
These don’t even have to be permanent. You can try wash out chalks and crayons for an instant (and easily corrected) change. Or try a semi-permanent color that comes out after a few washes.
How Does This Help You Find Yourself
So much of a mom’s look is dictated by exhaustion, lack of time, and routine. When you are bold enough to change your hair, it empowers you to change other areas of your life.
Changing your hair also changes your perception of yourself. When you like the way you look, it gives your confidence, can help you feel more energized, and feel more sociable. All of these lead to big, positive changes in your overall life.
There is a lot of wisdom in the adage, “Change your look, change your life,” and not just from beauty people. Your outward appearance should be a representation of who you are and make you feel good. That’s how a haircut can help you find yourself. When you express who you are outwardly, not just in actions but appearance as well, you find the confidence to dive deep into other areas and make a true change that lasts.
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