Trade in Your Resolutions for New Years Goals

A new year provides a wealth of opportunity to change your life. Unfortunately, too often we write out resolutions only to get serious about them for a week then abandon them. This year, trade in your resolutions for New Years goals and finally achieve all of those big ideas you have. Find out how to set successful goals and break them down all year long for the best year ever!

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I have always set goals for New Years without even realizing it and called them resolutions. In fact, I set big goals because of the innate belief that anyone can accomplish anything when they set their mind to it.

Even if you don’t reach all of your goals for the year, you learn a lot about yourself in the process. You also find that sometimes you are chasing the wrong goals. What you think you wanted or needed wasn’t the case at all. Of course, you can’t do that without setting, working, and tracking your goals.

That’s why this year, I’m challenging you to trade in your typical, unfulfilled resolutions for New Years goals!

The Problem with Resolutions

Setting New Years resolutions are better than nothing, but there’s a reason that you aren’t following through year after year. When most people set resolutions, they basically write down a couple of things that they hope happen this year. There isn’t a plan to achieve those resolutions.

How many times have you decided that this is the year that you’re going to get organized. You spend the first couple weeks of January feverishly cleaning your home and finding places for all of the new gifts you received. Soon, you’re burnt out and have no idea what to do next. Sound familiar?

What if you could change that by setting goals and skipping the resolutions? When you follow these steps, you can finally make those things happen.

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How to Set New Years Goals

Don’t set amorphous goals like, “I plan to lose weight this year.” That lands you in the same place you are now when next year rolls around. Goals need to be specific. For example, to lose weight your specific goal could be, “I am going to workout 4 times a week” or “I will meal plan every Sunday so that I can eat healthy foods easily”.

Another tip is to think about the specific areas of your life that you want to change. I recommend no more than 5 (you can see a list of areas to choose from on Tips and Tricks for Creating Your Future). Typically, I choose to set one goal each for Self-Improvement, Finances, Family, Home, and Business. This helps you set your focus for the year with big goals! Here are some examples to help you out:

  1. Self-Improvement: I will lose 5 pounds a month.
  2. Finances: Pay off $20,000 of debt.
  3. Family: Start having weekly family meetings again.
  4. Home: I will not purchase anything new, outside of groceries and toiletries, for an entire year.
  5. Business: I will grow my monthly income to $10,000 per month in order to hire an assistant by Q4.

Keep in mind that these are just examples to get the wheels turning. Maybe you want to strengthen your marriage this year by making weekly date nights a priority. Or, this year is the year that you are going to get your basement finished. Whatever your goals are, write them down.

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Break Down Your Goals

Once you have your goals written down, it’s time to make a plan for completing them. No matter how specific your goals are, you still need to break them down into baby steps that you can focus on each month and each week. Think of these like the footholds on your mountain that help you reach the peak.

Don’t get overwhelmed and think that you have to plan out the entire year. In fact, I recommend only breaking your goals down 1 month at a time. Here are some ideas based on the examples above:

Lose 5 Pounds a Month

Baby Steps:

– Get 15,000 steps a day.

– Prep 6 healthy lunches on Sunday for the week.

– Complete 20 minute workout video Monday, Wednesday, and Friday.

Pay Off $20,000 of Debt

Baby Steps:

– Cut one unnecessary item from our monthly budget.

– Sell unused items in our home and put that money towards debt.

– Work side jobs to make up difference until we have paid off $2000 in debt this month.

Start Having Weekly Family Meetings Again

Baby Steps:

– Determine the day/evening of the week that this works best for our family.

– Prepare 4 family activity ideas to correspond with the family meetings.

– Execute 1 family meeting a week.

Not Purchase Anything New for an Entire Year

Baby Steps:

– Declutter living room so that I have a better idea what we have.

– Deep clean 1 area of the house every time I am tempted to buy something new to help deter the feeling.

– When I cannot find a work around using items we already have, find something used that will work.

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Notice that these baby steps do not accomplish the entire goal. Instead, they break them down into monthly actionable steps that are much more manageable.

For example, if you said you wanted to lose 50 pounds this year, that seems like a steep mountain to climb. However, only focusing on 5 pounds a month is a much less daunting figure.

The same goes for paying off $20,000 of debt. That is a big number! Instead, break it down into a $2000 monthly goal and it doesn’t seem as impossible.

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Make It Happen

Lastly, just having your goals broken down into baby steps doesn’t get the job done. The best way to make sure you work towards your goals is to schedule them in your planner every week. Make them non-negotiable for the first month and it will get easier every month after.

Pick a day of the week to update your planner for the following week and schedule your baby steps. For example, add your workouts to your schedule on the days you want to complete them. The same goes for your meal planning, home improvement tasks, or organization plans.

You also want to schedule check-ins throughout your month to ensure that you are staying on track. If you are focusing on losing 5 pounds a month, have weekly weigh-ins to track your progress. You should also have check-ins for your other goals such as checking every payday to see how much debt you have paid off that month.

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Include Rewards

It’s no surprise that rewards motivate us to keep going. Rewards are treats and treats make you feel good, especially when you have to earn them. The trick here is to make sure that you choose rewards that don’t derail your goals. So don’t make your reward cake for losing 5 pounds or don’t go out and buy a bunch of movies as a reward for not buying anything new. Both of these defeat the purpose of focusing so hard on your goals.

Instead, reward yourself with an extra free day as a reward for meeting your weight goal. You could also reward yourself with a spa day at home for not buying anything new this month. Whatever you choose, keep your rewards in line with your ultimate goals.

Don’t leave the rewards to the last minute to decide on. Instead, plan them at the beginning of each month when you set your baby steps for the month. This gives you something to look forward to and helps you prepare better as well.

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Instead of wasting your time on more resolutions to abandon this year, trade in your resolutions for New Years goals. When you set specific goals, break them down, and reward yourself for making it happen you can achieve everything you want this year without burnout. Make it even easier when you subscribe to these monthly bundles and download the monthly planner. Every month includes a goals worksheet to break down your goals and remind you to schedule your steps each month!

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Free Printable Thanksgiving Family Dinner Conversation Cards

One of the best things about Thanksgiving is that the entire family gathers around the table for a meal. What if you could add that to your schedule every week? Think about the connectedness your family would feel. Call your family to the table this weekend and get the conversation started with these free printable Thanksgiving family dinner conversation cards.

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Family Dinner: Chore or Connecting?

Lately, dinners together seem more like a chore than a family bonding experience. No matter what I make at least one kid has a problem with it (even if they’ve eaten it before in the past). We have the rule that you don’t leave the table until everyone has finished eating. However, when you’re dealing with an obstinate child dinner lasts until bedtime.

What’s worse is knowing that they get their stubbornness from me. While I loved healthy healthy food (unlike my kiddos) I wouldn’t touch anything that had any condiments, pepper, or weird sauces on it. In fact, I’d rather sit at the table until bedtime than even touch something I didn’t think I would like. Well, hello payback.

While I’ve adjusted the ‘no getting up until everyone is finished’ rule slightly, I feel like an hour at the table isn’t too much to ask. These conversation cards are the perfect way to get the conversation going and keep the older kiddos from getting bored at the table after they have finished eating.

 

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Free Thanksgiving Family Dinner Conversation Cards

Thanksgiving Family Dinner Conversation Cards

Sometimes kids are taciturn and don’t want to talk much at the table. You ask them how their days were and you get, “Good” or “Fine”. On the flip side of that, sometimes the little ones think it’s hilarious to call each other “poopy heads”.

Take back the conversation while keeping it fun and learning more about each other with these free printable Thanksgiving family dinner conversation cards.

 

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Preparing Your Conversation Cards

These are so easy to prepare that you can totally have them ready for tonight’s dinner. Simply print out your conversation cards, cut them apart, and voila! I do recommend printing them on a heavier card stock instead of regular weight printer paper.

You can also laminate them for durability. Anytime you combine little hands and food, messes are bound to happen. Laminating them will help them last longer and can even be gently wiped off if needed.

 

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Whether you’re trying to get the conversation started at the dinner table or simply want to pass the time while the little ones finish, these free printable Thanksgiving family dinner conversation cards are a super simple tool to make it easier. If I figure out how to end the dinner wars without serving pizza and chicken nuggets for every meal, I’ll let you know. Until then, at least dinners are more fun again with these cards.

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Tips for How to Practice Mindful Reflection

The last piece of how to rediscover yourself after marriage and motherhood is learning how to practice mindful reflection. Self reflection is how you continue to grow and improve long after working through the exercises in this series. The best way to do this easily is with your journal so make sure you have it handy.

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I whole-heartedly believe that mindful reflection is key to self awareness. Self awareness is something that I strive for daily. You can even ask my family, if I notice that I’m stressed out or tired and being extra snappy at everyone I apologize. Then, more importantly, I make a concerted effort to improve my attitude and my behavior.

That is not the only way that being self aware helps you, though. Self awareness is at the heart of everything you have worked on during this series. When you truly know yourself, enforcing your boundaries, treating yourself with love and respect, and growing as a person and a mom are all easier.

 

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Practice Gratitude

One of the best ways to practice mindful reflection is through gratitude. Focus on the things that you are thankful for in a deliberate way and do so daily. Gratitude changes your mindset which is important for mindful reflection without judgment. You want to reflect with a heart of compassion towards yourself.

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This also helps improve your entire mood and outlook in general. Start your day with a quick gratitude practice and it sets the tone for your entire day.

Reflect on Your Goals

I do this every single month and it is so incredibly powerful. First, you have to set monthly goals. Then, at the end of each month, go over them noting which ones you accomplished and which ones you did not. Lastly, and most importantly, evaluate why you completed or didn’t complete your goals.

Be honest with yourself (no one’s going to see this anyway). Did you fail to complete a goal because you were lazy and didn’t work on it? Or, did you not complete it because your methods legitimately didn’t work. Dig into your results and adjust your plans for next month accordingly.

 

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Review Your Journal

Right now I want you to pull out your journal and look at your first few entries. If you worked through all of the exercises in this series, you likely don’t even recognize the woman who wrote those entries. That is the power of keeping a journal.

There will be times that you feel like you haven’t come as far as you want. In those moments, pull out your journal and take a look at just how far you have truly come on your journey.

You can also look for patterns in your thoughts and feelings. Do you notice that you get very sad or anxious after a particularly busy week? That can be a sign that you aren’t recharging like you should. If you struggle with depression, you can also use your journal to become aware of patterns in your dips. Your journal is a powerful, inexpensive tool to practice mindful reflection with.

Be in the Moment

Lastly, try being present in the moment. When you try to intentionally be in the moment you are automatically more aware of yourself. Think about it like this: it is recommended that you don’t do other things while eating because you are more prone to mindlessly eating and not recognizing cues that you are full.

The same goes for your emotions. If you are distracted during activities and conversations, you don’t notice when you are uncomfortable or boundaries are being crossed. Instead, the effects catch up with you later without you realizing the cause.

Additionally, being in the moment recaptures some of that childlike wonder. Kids aren’t worried about what has happened or what is coming. They are focused on what is happening right now. That means they feel everything deeply and passionately. Try to bring some of that passion into your daily life simply by choosing to be present in the moment.

 

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Practicing gratitude, reflecting on your goals, reviewing your journal regularly, and being present in the moment will help you continue on this journey you started 31 days ago. Now your know how to practice mindful reflection to for continued growth, confidence, and happiness.

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How to Rediscover Yourself After Marriage and Motherhood Series

  1. Introduction
  2. Why All Moms Need a Journal
  3. Determine Your Why for Self Discovery
  4. Find Your Cheerleaders
  5. DIY Positive Affirmation Cards
  6. Create Your SAHM Hierarchy of Needs
  7. The Hard Truth About Carving Out Me Time
  8. 5 Awesome Podcasts to Inspire Self Discovery
  9. How to Love Yourself First
  10. Stop Reacting to Life and Live Proactive
  11. How to Set and Protect Boundaries as a Mom
  12. How Moms Can Stop Being People Pleasers
  13. Why It’s Okay to Outgrow Relationships
  14. It’s Time to Break-up with Yourself
  15. Create a Mini Mom Oasis for Recharging
  16. Why Moms Should Date Themselves + How to Do It
  17. How to Get Your Free Time Back as a SAHM
  18. Turn Someday into Today
  19. Why You Should Throw Out Your Clothes
  20. Rediscover Your Old Hobbies
  21. How to Find New Hobbies You Love
  22. How to Create a Daily Self Care Routine
  23. Shut Down Your Negative Self Talk
  24. How a Haircut Can Help You Find Yourself
  25. Make a Bucket List You’ll Actually Complete
  26. Unique Alternative Ideas to Help You Find Yourself
  27. Why SAHM Need to Unplug Weekly
  28. 10 Mom Date Ideas You Can Do at Home
  29. 10 Mom Date Ideas to Get Out of the House
  30. Embracing Your Weird as a Mom
  31. How to Practice Mindful Reflection