Trade in Your Resolutions for New Years Goals

A new year provides a wealth of opportunity to change your life. Unfortunately, too often we write out resolutions only to get serious about them for a week then abandon them. This year, trade in your resolutions for New Years goals and finally achieve all of those big ideas you have. Find out how to set successful goals and break them down all year long for the best year ever!

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I have always set goals for New Years without even realizing it and called them resolutions. In fact, I set big goals because of the innate belief that anyone can accomplish anything when they set their mind to it.

Even if you don’t reach all of your goals for the year, you learn a lot about yourself in the process. You also find that sometimes you are chasing the wrong goals. What you think you wanted or needed wasn’t the case at all. Of course, you can’t do that without setting, working, and tracking your goals.

That’s why this year, I’m challenging you to trade in your typical, unfulfilled resolutions for New Years goals!

The Problem with Resolutions

Setting New Years resolutions are better than nothing, but there’s a reason that you aren’t following through year after year. When most people set resolutions, they basically write down a couple of things that they hope happen this year. There isn’t a plan to achieve those resolutions.

How many times have you decided that this is the year that you’re going to get organized. You spend the first couple weeks of January feverishly cleaning your home and finding places for all of the new gifts you received. Soon, you’re burnt out and have no idea what to do next. Sound familiar?

What if you could change that by setting goals and skipping the resolutions? When you follow these steps, you can finally make those things happen.

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How to Set New Years Goals

Don’t set amorphous goals like, “I plan to lose weight this year.” That lands you in the same place you are now when next year rolls around. Goals need to be specific. For example, to lose weight your specific goal could be, “I am going to workout 4 times a week” or “I will meal plan every Sunday so that I can eat healthy foods easily”.

Another tip is to think about the specific areas of your life that you want to change. I recommend no more than 5 (you can see a list of areas to choose from on Tips and Tricks for Creating Your Future). Typically, I choose to set one goal each for Self-Improvement, Finances, Family, Home, and Business. This helps you set your focus for the year with big goals! Here are some examples to help you out:

  1. Self-Improvement: I will lose 5 pounds a month.
  2. Finances: Pay off $20,000 of debt.
  3. Family: Start having weekly family meetings again.
  4. Home: I will not purchase anything new, outside of groceries and toiletries, for an entire year.
  5. Business: I will grow my monthly income to $10,000 per month in order to hire an assistant by Q4.

Keep in mind that these are just examples to get the wheels turning. Maybe you want to strengthen your marriage this year by making weekly date nights a priority. Or, this year is the year that you are going to get your basement finished. Whatever your goals are, write them down.

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Break Down Your Goals

Once you have your goals written down, it’s time to make a plan for completing them. No matter how specific your goals are, you still need to break them down into baby steps that you can focus on each month and each week. Think of these like the footholds on your mountain that help you reach the peak.

Don’t get overwhelmed and think that you have to plan out the entire year. In fact, I recommend only breaking your goals down 1 month at a time. Here are some ideas based on the examples above:

Lose 5 Pounds a Month

Baby Steps:

– Get 15,000 steps a day.

– Prep 6 healthy lunches on Sunday for the week.

– Complete 20 minute workout video Monday, Wednesday, and Friday.

Pay Off $20,000 of Debt

Baby Steps:

– Cut one unnecessary item from our monthly budget.

– Sell unused items in our home and put that money towards debt.

– Work side jobs to make up difference until we have paid off $2000 in debt this month.

Start Having Weekly Family Meetings Again

Baby Steps:

– Determine the day/evening of the week that this works best for our family.

– Prepare 4 family activity ideas to correspond with the family meetings.

– Execute 1 family meeting a week.

Not Purchase Anything New for an Entire Year

Baby Steps:

– Declutter living room so that I have a better idea what we have.

– Deep clean 1 area of the house every time I am tempted to buy something new to help deter the feeling.

– When I cannot find a work around using items we already have, find something used that will work.

Note:

Notice that these baby steps do not accomplish the entire goal. Instead, they break them down into monthly actionable steps that are much more manageable.

For example, if you said you wanted to lose 50 pounds this year, that seems like a steep mountain to climb. However, only focusing on 5 pounds a month is a much less daunting figure.

The same goes for paying off $20,000 of debt. That is a big number! Instead, break it down into a $2000 monthly goal and it doesn’t seem as impossible.

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Make It Happen

Lastly, just having your goals broken down into baby steps doesn’t get the job done. The best way to make sure you work towards your goals is to schedule them in your planner every week. Make them non-negotiable for the first month and it will get easier every month after.

Pick a day of the week to update your planner for the following week and schedule your baby steps. For example, add your workouts to your schedule on the days you want to complete them. The same goes for your meal planning, home improvement tasks, or organization plans.

You also want to schedule check-ins throughout your month to ensure that you are staying on track. If you are focusing on losing 5 pounds a month, have weekly weigh-ins to track your progress. You should also have check-ins for your other goals such as checking every payday to see how much debt you have paid off that month.

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Include Rewards

It’s no surprise that rewards motivate us to keep going. Rewards are treats and treats make you feel good, especially when you have to earn them. The trick here is to make sure that you choose rewards that don’t derail your goals. So don’t make your reward cake for losing 5 pounds or don’t go out and buy a bunch of movies as a reward for not buying anything new. Both of these defeat the purpose of focusing so hard on your goals.

Instead, reward yourself with an extra free day as a reward for meeting your weight goal. You could also reward yourself with a spa day at home for not buying anything new this month. Whatever you choose, keep your rewards in line with your ultimate goals.

Don’t leave the rewards to the last minute to decide on. Instead, plan them at the beginning of each month when you set your baby steps for the month. This gives you something to look forward to and helps you prepare better as well.

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Instead of wasting your time on more resolutions to abandon this year, trade in your resolutions for New Years goals. When you set specific goals, break them down, and reward yourself for making it happen you can achieve everything you want this year without burnout. Make it even easier when you subscribe to these monthly bundles and download the monthly planner. Every month includes a goals worksheet to break down your goals and remind you to schedule your steps each month!

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Make a Bucket List You’ll Actually Complete

Do you have a bucket list? If so, how many of the things on it have you actually done? Don’t worry if your answer is in the single digits. These tips will help you make a bucket list you’ll actually complete.

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I have been lucky enough to do many great things and have tons of awesome experiences in my life. Then one day, I realized I had stopped. I got caught up in raising a family and daily life.

It happens to the best of us but once you realize it, you want to do something about it. A bucket list is a great way to change it around.

If you actually do it, that is. That is exactly what these tips help you do.

 

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Start with What You Have Done

Start by making a list of all of the amazing things you have already done. When you see how much you’ve already accomplished, it will motivate you to start again. That’s how you get the initial push to start again.

There are no wrong answers here, either. Everything that you feel is an accomplishment, unique experience, or enriching should go on the list. Here is a short example for you:

  1. Visit Montreal
  2. Go to Disney World
  3. See Boston in Concert
  4. Crowd Surf
  5. Fly in a Plane
  6. Write a Book
  7. Perform Live on Stage
  8. Try Out for The Voice
  9. Go Skinny Dipping
  10. Perform in a Play
  11. Win an Award/Trophy
  12. Complete a 5K
  13. Ride a Horse
  14. Pet a Shark
  15. Ride an Elephant
  16. Feed a Giraffe
  17. Attend New Orleans Jazz Festival
  18. Eat Alligator
  19. See the Nutcracker Ballet
  20. Get Paid to Sing

Not all of these are huge things but they all meant something to me. Seeing it all laid out on a list makes you feel pretty awesome and accomplished. You are a person, a unique individual who has so much more to give than what you give yourself credit for.

 

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Make Your Bucket List

Once you complete the list of things you have already done, it’s time to make your bucket list. You were likely inspired by new ideas while compiling the list above. Write them down: all of them. Anything and everything you can think of that you want to do, try, and experience.

Here is another quick example:

  1. Be an Extra in a Horror Movie
  2. Go Snorkeling
  3. Visit Hawaii
  4. Take a European Vacation
  5. Go on an Overnight Ghost Hunt
  6. Stay in an Over-water Bungalow
  7. Go to Super Bowl
  8. Attend Comi-Con in San Diego
  9. Throw an Over-the-Top Birthday Party
  10. Go on a Huge Tropical Zip Line
  11. Try Glass Blowing
  12. Go on a Cruise
  13. Try a Sensory Deprivation Tank
  14. Earn a Million Dollars
  15. Attend a Crab Boil
  16. Eat at the Hello Kitty Food Truck
  17. Meet the Core Buffy “Scooby Gang”
  18. Sleep in a Haunted House
  19. Go on a Safari
  20. Donate Blood

Notice how there are seriously all kinds of things on this list. From places to visit to conquering fears and even to financial milestones, they are all part of my bucket list. Remember, you decide what goes on it and it can be absolutely anything you want.

 

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Prominently Feature Your Bucket List

After you finish your bucket list, you need to keep that baby front and center on your mind. A great way to do this is to literally hang it on the wall.

If you have a large dry erase board you can write your bucket list on there and hang it. You can also make the super easy DIY chalkboard in this tutorial to write them on.

 

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Share Your Bucket List

Lastly, share it with your family, including your kids. There are 3 reasons for this:

  1. This helps keep you accountable.
  2. It prepares your kids for the times you do things without them.
  3. Lastly, it’s a great behavior to model for your kids.

I love kids for their honesty. When they see you checking off items on the list, they will get excited. On the flip side of that, they won’t hesitate to point out when it has been a while since you checked one off.

Bonus Tip: Schedule It

In case you haven’t notice, I’m a big proponent for scheduling things. When you take the time to write them down and plan them, it makes it easier to stick to. Additionally, it gives you a deadline. I recommend scheduling at least 4 bucket list items a year. Ideally these would be 3 smaller ones that are simple and inexpensive to complete and 1 large one that is consumes more time, planning, and money.

 

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When you start with your accomplishments, keep your list prominent, and share it with family you will finally make a bucket list you’ll actually complete. The life we live and who we become is essentially made up of each one of these experiences. They shape and form us which is pretty cool when you think about it. That means we have a lot more control over who we become than we like to believe.

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How to Rediscover Yourself After Marriage and Motherhood Series

  1. Introduction
  2. Why All Moms Need a Journal
  3. Determine Your Why for Self Discovery
  4. Find Your Cheerleaders
  5. DIY Positive Affirmation Cards
  6. Create Your SAHM Hierarchy of Needs
  7. The Hard Truth About Carving Out Me Time
  8. 5 Awesome Podcasts to Inspire Self Discovery
  9. How to Love Yourself First
  10. Stop Reacting to Life and Live Proactive
  11. How to Set and Protect Boundaries as a Mom
  12. How Moms Can Stop Being People Pleasers
  13. Why It’s Okay to Outgrow Relationships
  14. It’s Time to Break-up with Yourself
  15. Create a Mini Mom Oasis for Recharging
  16. Why Moms Should Date Themselves + How to Do It
  17. How to Get Your Free Time Back as a SAHM
  18. Turn Someday into Today
  19. Why You Should Throw Out Your Clothes
  20. Rediscover Your Old Hobbies
  21. How to Find New Hobbies You Love
  22. How to Create a Daily Self Care Routine
  23. Shut Down Your Negative Self Talk
  24. How a Haircut Can Help You Find Yourself
  25. Make a Bucket List You’ll Actually Complete
  26. Unique Alternative Ideas to Help You Find Yourself
  27. Why SAHM Need to Unplug Weekly
  28. 10 Mom Date Ideas You Can Do at Home
  29. 10 Mom Date Ideas to Get Out of the House
  30. Embracing Your Weird as a Mom
  31. How to Practice Mindful Reflection 

 

Stop Reacting to Life and Live Proactive

Do you feel like at the end of the day you accomplished nothing that you wanted to? Have you ever thought, “Why do these things keep happening to me?” If you answered yes to one or both of these questions, you are living reactively. Today is the day you stop reacting to life and live proactive.

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Admittedly, this is a pet peeve of mine. The people who sit around wondering why bad things keep happening to them. They wonder why the bank account is overdrawn again or blame their boss for their getting fired. The one thing they have in common? It’s never their fault.

Life just happens to them. Their account go overdrawn because the bank didn’t update their account balance correctly at the ATM. They got fired because their boss hated them.

Luckily, I know that’s not you because you’ve already worked on taking personal responsibility. However, there are sneakier ways that moms let reactive living creep into their lives.

 

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Sneaky Reactive Living

We all have bad days when the kids don’t let us have a moment’s peace, but how many days in a row has that prevented you from completing a task you really wanted to get done.

How many times have you “lost track” of time and forgotten dinner until it’s too late to cook so you order out?

If these sound familiar, you are not alone. I’ve been right there with you. The problem is that reactive living robs you have your happiness. You feel like your life is chaotic and you have no control. At some point you have to decide that you’ve had enough and you’re ready to boss your day around like the awesome and powerful mom that you are.

 

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Setting Goals

That first step in proactive living is setting your goals. Admittedly this is my favorite part of life. Why? Because it allows you to really dream big. None of your ultimate goals have to be scaled down or cast aside. The sky is the limit when it comes to goals.

It’s not enough to simply think about them. You need to take out your journal and write them down. What does your dream day look like? Would you love to have a house that’s always clean? Dinner is always on the table by 6 pm and your entire family sits down to eat together. You have a brand new mansion in Malibu with both an indoor and an outdoor pool that you can spend everyday by.

Whatever that goal is, write it down. Be as descriptive as possible and include everything you can think of. Seriously, dream big here.

Break Those Goals Down

Once you know what your big goal is, you have to break it down into smaller goals. If you want a brand new mansion in Malibu but you’re living as a single-income family, you are going to have to find ways to increase your income. This could mean starting your own business, taking a part-time job, or other ways of making more money.

Of course, if your goals are smaller right now, that’s totally fine too. For example, all I want right now if for my house to always be clean. That doesn’t sound glamorous but it does so much for my well-being and eases my stress levels greatly. It’s simply what I want.

Start with Big Chunks

For example, a clean house means that:

How Do You Complete Those Chunks

Once you have your big chunks defined, it’s time to break them down even further. How do I completely clean the house?

Okay, my house is clean. How do I keep it clean?

 

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Schedule Your Day

Admittedly, above I over-simplified the goals to give you an example. Some will have many big chunks with even more smaller chunks under them, but you get the picture. After you have those smaller chunks, use them as guideposts to plan your day. Determine everything you need to do each day. This is not limited to the actions that will help you achieve your goals. It also includes daily tasks such as making dinner, reading the kids to sleep, or packing lunches in the morning. Don’t leave anything out, no matter how small it may seem.

Get tips for scheduling your day here.

Write It Down

After you know exactly what you need to accomplish, put it on paper. I love a planner for this but you can also use an hourly to-do list or a dry erase board. Use what works for you. Plan out each day the night before or once a week on a specific day. Then treat that list as non-negotiable. For example, there are some days when tackling another room of my house sounds absolutely horrible, but if it’s on my list, I simply have to buck up and do it. This keeps me accountable and when I try to talk myself out of it, essentially, I’m saying that my goals and dreams aren’t important enough.

 

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Expand to All Areas of Life

Once you begin to master living proactive in your daily life, start to expand it to all areas of your life. Set a budget or financial goal then make a plan to bring it to fruition. Create an awesome fitness goal and break it down into smaller, manageable steps. Any area of your life where you want to live proactive, follow these steps. Stop letting life just happen. Take control of it.

 

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It may sound oversimplified to say stop reacting to life and live proactive but the concept is truly that simple. That doesn’t mean it isn’t going to take a lot of hard work to get there. When you commit to truly improving yourself and your life, it’s a one-two-three step. You’ve done the hardest part and made the decision to change. Now it’s time to put it into practice in your daily life and watch a life you love begin to emerge and grow.

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How to Rediscover Yourself After Marriage and Motherhood Series

  1. Introduction
  2. Why All Moms Need a Journal
  3. Determine Your Why for Self Discovery
  4. Find Your Cheerleaders
  5. DIY Positive Affirmation Cards
  6. Create Your SAHM Hierarchy of Needs
  7. The Hard Truth About Carving Out Me Time
  8. 5 Awesome Podcasts to Inspire Self Discovery
  9. How to Love Yourself First
  10. Stop Reacting to Life and Live Proactive
  11. How to Set and Protect Boundaries as a Mom
  12. How Moms Can Stop Being People Pleasers
  13. Why It’s Okay to Outgrow Relationships
  14. It’s Time to Break-up with Yourself
  15. Create a Mini Mom Oasis for Recharging
  16. Why Moms Should Date Themselves + How to Do It
  17. How to Get Your Free Time Back as a SAHM
  18. Turn Someday into Today
  19. Why You Should Throw Out Your Clothes
  20. Rediscover Your Old Hobbies
  21. How to Find New Hobbies You Love
  22. How to Create a Daily Self Care Routine
  23. Shut Down Your Negative Self Talk
  24. How a Haircut Can Help You Find Yourself
  25. Make a Bucket List You’ll Actually Complete
  26. Unique Alternative Ideas to Help You Find Yourself
  27. Why SAHM Need to Unplug Weekly
  28. 10 Mom Date Ideas You Can Do at Home
  29. 10 Mom Date Ideas to Get Out of the House
  30. Embracing Your Weird as a Mom
  31. How to Practice Mindful Reflection